~THE HARASSER~

About the complex nature of harassers, their motives, characteristics, and behaviors...
What I can tell is...
It is difficult to study harasser motives or goals directly.

According to the research,the motives or goals are;

- Traditional gender roles

Following their traditional roles men fulfill masculine roles such as being the initiator of sexual activity, while women behave in accord with feminine roles such as being sex objects (Stockdale, Visio, & Batra, 1999).

- Rejection behaviors, which include efforts to humiliate, punish, or debase the target

This theory proposes that during sexual harassment, two categories of goals can be at play that apply to male and female harassers as well as male and female targets. Approach motives involve efforts to develop a closer relationship with the target.

- Emotional motives
This are based on behavior that is directed toward making the harasser "feel good."

Article from: Sex Roles: A Journal of Research | September 1, 2006 | Lucero, Margaret A.; Allen, Robert E.; Middleton, Karen L.

 

~REFLECTION~

I have learned a lot of thing throughout blogging. Firstly, blogging can be time consuming. Before you know it three hours go by, assignments are still on the table, clothes need to be wash and you need study for your next test. You need to set limits otherwise you will get completely screwed in. the most important that I learned is we should try coming up with a schedule. Before sitting down we should know what you are going to work on and for how long. One tip I learned is to set a timer to help you stay on track. For example; say you have one hour to work. Your schedule could look like this:

15 minutes: Check and respond to email

30 minutes: Work on a post

15 minutes: Tweet and post on Facebook

You feel much more productive when you have a schedule and stick to it.\

 

Besides, we also need to find our voice. I admit this can be a tough one. When I first started blogging, I wasn’t sure the direction I was headed. It took me awhile to finally feel comfortable with my own voice. But as soon as I did it helped build my confidence and allowed me to grow as a blogger. Everyone has a different voice and perspective on life; you just need to find what feels comfortable to you. That is why I am saying that we are all unique and so our blogs deserve to be original. 

Furthermore, engaging feels good. Who doesn’t love comments? It gives you gratification that there is someone else out there reading your posts and connecting with you on a personal level. One of the biggest tips on how to create dialogue with your readers is to ask a question at the end of your post. It gives your readers a prompt to share their story or offer advice. This has really helped me connect with my readers and make stronger relationships. I am really lucky because I get a few comments for each post even though I am new in blogging world. 

Last but not least, I am really happy with my blogging journey so far, but I do find myself occasionally struggling with where I want to go with this blog. I see so many bloggers really getting personal with their readers. There was a point when I felt that I should too. Then I realized that I shouldn't be blogging like other bloggers. I should be blogging like myself. Maybe their blog are kind of personal blog and readers are more likely to be excited with that. While my blog are more likely to be an educational blog and fewer people attract to it. Besides, there are very few people in the world that know me really well, so to air out everything to people I have never met would be sort of impossible for me. I don't look at this blog as a place to "vent" but as a place to inspire and to share knowledge. As I continue to learn what works for me and who I am as a blogger, I'm also learning who I am as a person.

~WHERE CAN I GET HELP???~

KEEP D'LADY FORECAST~

WHAT CAN I DO?

Instead of getting help and support from the family
you should know that
there are other people who really can help you.
First, you can calling or contact TALIAN NUR,
which is 15999.
You can speak up everything that have you faced to the TALIAN NUR.
They will hear all your problem first,
then they will give you some advice or guideline
on what you need to do next and
also help you find ways to solve your problems.


Besides, commonly for the sexual harassment cases,
they always ask the victim to make a police report even though it is not a big cases.
The reason is not only for their own safety but also the public.
So this is really important things that you should think of.
You should make a police report from the nearest police station to you.

Legally speaking, there is no specific offense of sexual harassment in Malaysia.
Hence, if a police report were lodged,
the police would have to look to the general criminal law (Penal Code)
in order to decide which particular offense to charge the harasser with.
The case would then be treated like any other sexual offense case.
Again, lodging a police report could also be an effective tool.
In addition to the police investigation and possible charges in court,
it could send a clear message to the harasser
that he is not simply going to get away with it since the police are aware of the matter.

~6 WAYS TO HELP PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCE SEXUAL HARASSMENT~

KEEP D'LAdY FOrecAST;

Now let us take a look the 6 simple steps to help sexual harassment victim;

1. Help victim understand that they are not to blame and that they have a right to complain and take action.

2. Encourage victim to speak up if they are targets o sexual harassment or if they know of other victims who are targets.

3. Do not expect victim to talk openly about the sexual harassment.

4. Remember that the victim needs support and reassurance that the harassment is over.

5. Encourage the victim to write down incidents as soon as they happen and make a complaint.

6. Take legal action.