~#3 AM I SEXUALLY HARASSED? : how to identify sexual harassment~

D'LADY FORECAST


The greater the power, 
the more dangerous the abuse.

The Context of power 
Sexual harassment has more to do with POWER
and less to do with sex than is generally understood.
What makes it different from ordinary flirting
is that sexual harassment occurs in the context of power imbalance.
One person has more power than the other
and therefore has the power to intimidate.
Sometimes the women "CHOSEN" by the harasser are the most vulnerable.

 The formal power of a supervisor or a faculty member is obvious;
both have the power to affect the life chances of employees and students 
because of their ability to provide or withhold 
a benefit, evaluation or service and their potential to harm.
It is the power relationship that characterizes the insidious nature of sexual harassment.
A person with less power can be easily intimidate by a person with more power.

Most discussion of power and sexual harassment have focused on formal power.
However, the informal power of men over women 
by virtue of their greater physical size, strength 
and status in another factor in sexual harassment, 
especially when it involves coworkers or students harassig other students.

In one sense harassing behavior has often been 'normalized' 
and viewed as typical and acceptable behavior for young males.
So it's already said why sexual harassment become an unrealistic issue among community~


References/Resources;
-Sexual Harassment on Campus, Bernise R.Sandler, 1997; Ally & Bacon

~#2 AM I SEXUALLY HARASSED? : how to identify sexual harassment~

D'LADY FORECAST~

If we could first know where we are, 
and whither we are tending, 
we could then better judge what to do, 
and how to do it.

As been told before,
there were three major characteristics,
the next characteristic is;

Sexual or Gender-Related Behavior

Sexual harassment can be verbal, nonverbal, or physical,
the latter sometimes qualifying as sexual assault.
Guess what, sexual harassment can occur once or several times.
It includes ( but not limited to the following) ;

PHYSICAL

1. Touching a person, including patting, pinching, stroking, squeezing, hugging or brushing against his or her body
2. Giving a neck or shoulder massage
3. Touching or grabbing a person's breasts, crotch or buttocks
4. Leering or ogling, such as "elevator eyes", or staring at a woman's breast or body
5. Direct or indirect threats or bribes for sexual activity

VERBAL

1. Sexual innuendos, comments, or bantering
2. Asking or commenting about a person's sexuality
3. Humor or jokes about sex or females in general
4. Asking for sexual behavior
5. Calling women names such as "hot stuff", "cutie pie", "bitch", "whore" or "slut"
6. Spreading rumors about a person sexual activities
7. Making sounds such as sucking or kissing noises

NON VERBAL

1. Sexual graffiti in general or about a particular person
2. Using sexual ridicule to denigrate or insult a person
3. Sending sexual mail, notes, e-mail, messages or making sexually explicit phone calls
4. Sending, giving, showing or displaying sexual materials, including pornography, sexual pictures,     cartoons and calendars.                                                                                                              

Which form of sexual or gender-related behavior is the most common sexual harassment in our community?
Lets share your opinion with us~

References/Resources;
- -Sexual Harassment on Campus, Bernise R.Sandler, 1997; Ally & Bacon

                                

~#1 AM I SEXUALLY HARASSED? : how to identify sexual harassment~

D'LADY FORECAST~ 

Sometimes questions are more important than answers

How do I know I am sexually harassed?
Do they sexually harassed me?
Is this sexual harassment?

Those are examples of common question
that we will hear or we will ask.
There are three major characteristics of sexual harassment;

• The behavior is unwanted or unwelcome
• The behavior is sexual or related to the sex or gender of the person
• The behavior occurs in context of a relationship that includes formal power or informal power

UNWANTED BEHAVIOR

The fact that the behavior is unwanted
makes sexual harassment different from other kinds of interaction.
In sexual harassment, the behavior, to some degree,
is defined by the victim.
So in simple words, we can say that
if the behavior is unwelcome,
it can be sexual harassment.
This situation will happen to anybody,male or female.
If it is welcomed, it is not likely to be sexual harassment.
For example:
Gita is waiting for her friend at the bus stop. Suddenly, a man come and stand close to her.
Then, up to a point the man touch her buttocks and makes her feeling really uncomfortable.

Women seem less confused about sexual harassment,
whether or not they use the term, than men.
They know when they are uncomfortable.
They know the difference between witty comment and sexual joke.
They know the difference between flirting and sexual intimidation.
They know the difference between a friendly touch and sexual assault.


#TO BE CONTINUE~

*REFERENCES/RESOURCES:
-Sexual Harassment on Campus, Bernise R.Sandler, 1997; Ally & Bacon

~VISTA OF MYTHS AND REALITIES~

D'LADY FORECAST~

Myths is an attempt to narrate a whole human experience, 

of which the purpose is too deep, 

going too deep in the blood and soul, 

for mental explanation or description.

Most of people still talking about the myths of sexual harassment. 

Guess what, these myths be hereditary from generation to another generation. 

Even though we have achieve a brand new world generation. 

Myths are still myths and totally opposite with fact or reality. 

Generally the myths and realities of sexual harassment  are;

Myth      – Sexual harassment is a woman’s problem and only happens to women who flirt, dress provocatively or otherwise “invite” it.

Reality – Sexual harassment most often occurs when someone in power abuses that power; it occurs regardless of how someone looks or acts. Sexual harassment can and does happen to anyone.

Myth        - Only women are sexually harassed and all sexually harassment perpetrators are men.
Reality   - While women continue to be the majority of sexual harassment recipients, men do get harassed by other men and women. Also, increasing number of women are being sexually harassed by other women.

 

Myth      – Sexual harassment is no big deal. Anyone who complains has no sense of humor.  

Reality – Sexual harassment and intimidation aren’t funny. They are degrading and humiliating. The effects of sexual harassment can be negative and long lasting, sometimes ruining careers and undermining academic performance, often causing emotional turmoil.

Myth      – If sexual harassment is ignored, it will go away. If the victim “just says ‘No’ ”, the harasser will stop.

Reality – Many harassers are told “No” repeatedly and still continue their behavior. Ignoring harassment is frequently seen as assent or encouragement, a sign that the victim “really likes it.”

*References/Resources:

-www.sexualharassmentsupport.org/myths.html

-http://targetlaw.com/myths-on-sexual-harassment